Demi Lovato, Barbie, and Body Image: Why Being Just Me Is Just Fine

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Makeba Giles

Makeba Giles

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Makeba Giles is an Health, Family, and Lifestyle Blogger. She is also a Midwest Mother of four, and the Founder and Creative Director of MELISASource.com. |

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Makeba Giles

demi-lovato-barbie-body-image #inspirationFor years….and years….and years, women have been influenced by society to believe that the shape and size of their bodies is everything: from magazines showcasing a “Beauty of the Week” to songs (and now music artists) glamorizing Barbie figures.

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I can even remember riding in the car with my family as a young child listening to this song, singing along to the chorus and having no clue what they were talking about:

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As a child, it was my favorite song. I thought they were talking about an actual house made of brick, since that’s what I lived in. 🙁

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Women have been teased, taunted, side-eyed, and overall made to feel horrible about their bodies if it looks like anything less than a supermodel, Halle Berry, Kim Kardashian, or the legendary Barbie Doll.

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There is a major difference between making lifestyle changes for health and wellness reasons, and going through physical, mental, and emotional extremes and turmoil just to fit a certain body image.

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I am glad that Demi Lovato knows this, and I am so glad that she used her platform and celebrity to share her personal story and raise awareness to it:

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Demi Lovato is not alone—so many young girls and women of all ages and sizes have fought their entire lives just to get their bodies to look like that of a Barbie doll. They have starved themselves, suffered severe eating disorders, and battled low self-esteem and depression. Some have even committed suicide due to feelings of failure for not being able to achieve what the rest of the world said they should be.

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Even as little girls, the pressures of body image are high — getting and having what society says is “the perfect body” are even higher.

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I used to be a size 3—heck, I used to be a size 6, and even a size 8—but that was a long time ago. And I used to have a tiny and defined waist, but birthing numerous children over a span of 13 years made it a thing of the past. And since I don’t intend on blowing my savings to get cosmetic surgery, there will be no ‘D’ or even ‘C’ cups in my future. My weight fluctuates back and forth, but usually more “forth” than “back.”

 

 

And you know what……I am perfectly okay with all of this.

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When you put the images of models, dolls, and video girls aside and love yourself for who you are—and for all that you are—you realize that being ‘just you’ is just fine. You will understand that everyone on this Earth was created individually, uniquely, and wonderfully. Our uniqueness is what makes this world in which we live a beautiful place to be—it was certainly not the Creator’s intention for everyone on the planet to fit into the same mold.

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My concerns are not (nor will they ever be) returning to a size 3 or 6 or 8, or having an hourglass figure, or being 36-24-36. I just want to be healthy. And whatever “healthy” looks like on me, I am alright with that.  I embrace my body for what it is and not what society says it should be; for how it was created, not how the media believes is right or wrong, or even beautiful or sexy.

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I believe that my body is beautiful—and the only person that can influence me to believe otherwise is Me.

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Thank you so very much Demi Lovato for being an inspiration, being confident in your body image, and taking a stand to be a voice for the millions of young girls and women all over the world who feel the exact same way.

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What are your thoughts on body image? Share with me below or tell me about it at: [email protected]

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  • Makeba,

    Body image can be such a double edged sword in today’s world. The media is constantly presenting people with a skewed view of reality and making it very hard for everyone to accept who they are and the true value of self-worth. On the opposite end of the spectrum we have to like our own body image and who we are to be successful in everything we try to accomplish in life….thus a double edged sword.

    The only way for young people to grow into healthy adults is for parents to take the time to teach their children about positive self-worth. I believe it is an area that many parents fail to think about while raising their children. It is even an area that many parents contribute to negative image without meaning too. Parents will often make comments, “That outfit makes you look to thin (or fat)” or “You really should watch what you eat.”

    Eating habits and positive self-worth begins when a child is very young. It is one of the reasons (and I have told this to parents as a social worker) we have to be careful when we tell children they have to finish everything on their plate. We need to promote eating healthy not promote eating and telling our children they have to finish food. If a child begins to feel insecure about what they are eating and how they are eating studies have shown it can lead to negative body image as they grow older. Just my two cents and a great article!!

    Aaron

    • Greetings Aaron! Yes I agree that learning the eating habits and styles of each individual child is important and can definitely help the child to have a positive self-worth. This is something that I learned early on. All 4 of my children have different approaches to their eating, and I have learned to adapt to them. Now as they grow older, all of them are happy, confident, and most importantly, healthy. And yes it is the same with clothing styles and the whole nine, You are right that it really does all begin at home, and as children grow and develop, if we help them along in the proper way they will thrive and blossom and love themselves for who and what they are. I appreciate your kind words and thank you so very much for sharing here with me! 🙂

  • I’m not a women, so there is really little that I can add to the discussion. All I can say to all the women who refuse to be defined by what society say they should be… YOU GO GIRL!! That’s what I call a Release! Beautiful post, Makeba! 🙂 LOVED IT!

    • Greetings Deone! I am go glad to know that you enjoyed this post! You are right– to be free of all of the things that society and the media say that you should be and look like and loving yourself for who you are is a wonderful (and powerful) release indeed! Thank you so very much for your kind words and I appreciate you sharing her with me friend! 🙂

  • I have been the size 3-6 & lost 60+ pounds after having 4 kids by working out 5x wk! Then I had my 5th & lost my mom gaining it back. Now, I am just trying to be healthier no size 6 in sight & that isn’t my goal. I don’t like how the media doesn’t embrace all sizes! On the inside I am still me ( kind, loving, a friend, a mom….) & when it comes down to it I am proud just to be that “me”. I hope all people (media & social)can look beyond: size,race,status….& get to know the real person for who they are & not what society thinks we should be or look like!Thanks for sharing this post

    • Greetings Theresa! I am definitely with you! The media really should become far better at embracing all sizes, shapes, and appearances. It would definitely cut down on the huge pressures that people feel to look a certain way–and it will also reduce the problems of low self-esteem and low self-confidence. As you said, it really should be all about getting to know someone for who they are and embracing them as they are. Thank you so very much for sharing here with me! 🙂

  • Yes indeed!

    We all are conscious about our body image and do try hard to maintain it too. However, just as you mentioned, when the kids come up, everything really takes a back seat as the full concentration is always on them.

    I guess its only after they grow a little do we really have time for ourselves and to do the things we really want to do.

    What matters most is to maintain your body weight and be happy that you are doing your best to lead a healthy lifestyle.

    Thanks for sharing. 🙂

    • Greetings Harleena! Yes I can certainly attest to the fact that as the children came, the less I placed so much concentration on my body image because all of my focus went on them. Now as they are getting older (and as I am getting older) I realize that the most important thing is to have a healthy lifestyle all around. So instead of beating myself up for not being a certain size or shape, I just embrace whatever it turns out to be. I really is a much happier space to be in! Thank you so much for sharing here with me! 🙂

  • I am at an age and a place where I like me. I wake up in the morning and say the words I taught my children, “My name is Janeane Davis, I love me and God loves me. I am special.” After that I keep it moving. My body does what I tell it to do and that is all I want from it!

    • Greetings Janeane! I could not have said it better myself! Even as I get older, I love my body and I know that as long as I treat it right that it loves me back! 🙂 I love your morning affirmations–what a great way to start each day! Thank you so much for sharing here with me! 🙂

  • Hey, my weight does the same thing, I also noticed something about the me at 125 pounds and me at 175 pounds, I was still me, only the outer shell changed. I was still the same me in terms of my spirit and I knew that when I was attracting someone it was for more than how my outside shell looked. We are all different, good hearts come in so many different shapes,colors. and sizes. Thank you for this post!

    • Greetings PHOENIXSTAR9! You are most welcome! Yes I agree that no matter where I may be in my clothing size or shape, I know that the people who truly love me are going to love me no matter what. Why? Because of the very thing that you said: who I am on the inside will never ever change. And I also know that I’ll always love myself, too! And you are right that good hearts are wrapped in an array of beautiful packages. 🙂 ~Thank you so much for sharing here with me! 🙂

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